Change Begins Within | Generated by AI
Question: What is the meaning or origin of the quote about wanting to change the world when young, then failing at progressively smaller scopes (world → surroundings → family), and finally realizing one should change oneself first — and if given the chance to go back, starting with self-change to possibly influence family and beyond?
Answer:
This is a very well-known reflective saying about personal growth, humility, maturity, and the realistic order of influence in life.
The most common full version in English is something like this:
When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world.
As I grew older and wiser, I discovered the world would not change, so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change only my country.
But it, too, seemed immovable.
As I grew into my twilight years, in one last desperate attempt, I settled for changing only my family, those closest to me, but alas, they would have none of it.
And now as I lie on my deathbed, I suddenly realize:
If I had only changed myself first, then by example I would have changed my family.
From their inspiration and encouragement, I would then have been able to better my country,
and who knows, I may have even changed the world.
There are several popular attributions:
- Often credited to an anonymous Buddhist monk or “a temple monk in Thailand”
- Frequently linked to a saying supposedly written on a wall in a Buddhist temple
- Sometimes attributed to Lao Tzu (though there is no solid evidence)
- Occasionally given to Leo Tolstoy or other philosophers
The Chinese version you saw is the most widely circulated short form in Chinese-speaking communities:
年轻时我想改变世界，后来发现不行；
然后我想改变周围的人，还是不行；
再后来我想改变我的家人，仍然失败；
最后我决定先改变自己。
如果能回到过去，我会先从改变自己开始——
也许那样我就有机会改变家庭，
进而影响周围的人，甚至改变世界。
Core message / takeaway
The quote captures several deep truths:
- Scope of control — We have the most control (and moral responsibility) over ourselves, far less over others.
- Influence is concentric — Real change usually spreads outward: self → close relationships → community → larger society.
- Example is more powerful than instruction — People are rarely argued into change, but they are often inspired (or repelled) by the visible change in someone close to them.
- Maturity often means smaller but deeper ambition — Wanting to “change the world” is youthful idealism; wanting to become a better version of oneself is mature realism.
- Regret usually points backward to the starting point — many people realize too late that the most effective (and feasible) leverage point was themselves all along.
In short: Change starts with the person in the mirror. Almost every serious philosophy of self-improvement, leadership, and even social change eventually arrives at roughly the same conclusion.
References:
- None (this is a widely paraphrased traditional/reflective saying without a single verifiable original author or publication)