Group Chat Is Not a Hiring Tool | Generated by AI

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Question: Is it a good idea to use the group to select people who can work with me or even start a project/startup together?

Answer:

It’s a good goal—but using a group chat as the primary filtering tool is not a good strategy.

You’re mixing two layers that should stay separate:

If you try to turn Layer 1 into Layer 2, two problems appear:

  1. People feel evaluated instead of relaxed

    • The group shifts from “peer space” → “implicit interview arena”
    • This reduces openness and natural contribution
  2. Signal becomes distorted

    • People perform instead of being real
    • You select for “talkers” instead of “builders”

1. The correct way to think about it

The group should be:

A passive filter, not an active selection machine

Meaning:


2. What actually works in practice

Strong collaborators are not found by:

“Who speaks well in a group”

They are found by:

“Who consistently does real things”

So instead of selecting in the group, do this:

Step 1 — Observe quietly

Look for people who:


Step 2 — Move to small, private interaction

Once someone stands out:


Step 3 — Test with small collaboration

Before “startup”:

This reveals much more than months of chatting.


Step 4 — Only then consider deeper partnership

Most people will drop off here—that’s normal.


3. Why your instinct is still valuable

Your instinct:

“I want to find people to build things with”

This is correct—and rare.

But the execution should be:

Pull-based (attract & observe), not push-based (screen & recruit)


4. What you should NOT do

Avoid these patterns:

These all backfire.


5. What you SHOULD do instead


6. A more accurate mental model

Think of the group as:

A campfire

People gather, talk, share ideas.

But:

You don’t hire people from campfire talk You build with people who show up the next day to work


Bottom line

Yes, you can find collaborators through the group—but:

Not by turning it into a selection tool → By using it as a long-term observation layer

If you do this right:

That’s how good teams actually form.


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