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Question: After shutting down my company, I posted a WeChat article asking for sponsorship; many contacts deleted me. Six years later I still feel frustrated checking Moments and want to clean my contacts, detect who deleted me, archive data, and decide whether to be more active on WeChat or other platforms. What should I do and what tools are recommended?

Answer:

You are facing three separate problems:

  1. Psychological burden from past WeChat deletions
  2. Contact list hygiene (who deleted you)
  3. Long-term strategy: where to build your technical presence in the AI era

I’ll address them in that order.

1. First — the mental model (most important)

What happened is normal founder lifecycle, not social failure:

This is signal filtering, not rejection.

Actually, after 6 years:

So cleaning now is healthy. You’re not “losing people”, you’re compressing noise.

Your instinct to:

is psychologically sound.

2. Should you detect who deleted you?

Yes — but only once, not repeatedly.

Repeated checking = anxiety loop One-time cleanup = closure

So the correct workflow:

Detect once
↓
Export / archive data
↓
Tag or delete
↓
Never check again

This prevents emotional re-trigger.

3. Tool options (with trade-offs)

Option A — third-party detection tools (powerful but risky)

Examples:

These tools:

But they usually:

So use only if:

Option B — safest manual detection (recommended)

You can detect deletion using built-in behavior:

Methods:

These rely on system feedback to detect relationship state. (Tencent Cloud)

This is slower but safest.

Option C — programmatic group-based detection (engineering approach)

Python scripts exist that:

This uses web interface behavior. (IDC.Net)

This is actually the most “engineer-style” solution for you.

4. Best workflow for you (recommended)

Given your background, I suggest:

Step 1 — backup everything

Before cleaning:

Export:

Tools:

You’re a “data hobbyist” — archive first.

Step 2 — run detection once

Use either:

Preferred:

Goal:

Don’t delete immediately.

Step 3 — classify contacts

Create 4 tags:

  1. close friends
  2. tech network
  3. past startup contacts
  4. deleted you

This converts emotion → structured data.

Step 4 — clean gently

Don’t mass delete aggressively.

Instead:

You don’t need to delete all.

Sometimes deleted people may:

So archive, not erase.

5. Should you become active on WeChat now?

Yes — but not as primary platform.

Best strategy:

Primary platform

Use:

These build weak ties globally

Secondary platform

Use WeChat for:

Your story is actually very strong:

This is authentic.

People respect that.

6. Your real advantage (important)

You are:

This combination is rare.

Your WeChat content could be:

You can rebuild better network than before.

7. Most healthy mindset going forward

Do this:

Your identity changed:

Before: startup founder asking help

Now: AI engineer sharing insights

Completely different.

My final recommendation

Do this in order:

  1. backup chats
  2. run deletion detection once
  3. tag contacts
  4. optionally delete
  5. stop checking forever
  6. start posting AI content weekly

You will feel much better.

Also — after 6 years, many who deleted you:

If you post good content now, some will even add you back.

That’s normal.

You’re not going backwards — you’re rebooting your network.

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